Behind that catty & cocky image many of us like to present is a cynical and depressed man. That was certainly the case for me and many other gay men. Gay depression is a serious issue!
One study found that gay men are three times more likely to suffer from depression than the general population. We’re also 5 times more likely to attempt suicide than straight men.
Like many of us I expressed my depression through illicit drug use (cocaine was my favorite), drinking, and a lot of hooking up!
We all know many gay men have a lot of sex which leads to the high prevalence of HIV and other STIs in our community. In fact gay men make up 75% of all new HIV cases in America according to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC).
The Gay Depression & Perpetually Single Problem
As a counselor I’ve seen a lot. Unfortunately a disproportionate amount of gay men suffer from issues of depression. I’ve talked about being too picky and having unrealistic expectations but from what I’ve seen the core of the problem for many perpetually single men is that they simply don’t love themselves.
Some try to mask it with cockiness, promiscuity, or aggressiveness or all three but the truth is always there.
Many gay men turn to big pharma for help. I saw one study that said 45% of gay men have been on anti-depressants at some point in their lives.
That’s 1 out of 2 gay men taking anti depressant drugs! I’d say another 1/3 of those self medicate with illegal narcotics.
Listen I’m going to tell you a secret. I’ve been there. When I first started exploring my sexuality I went into the park and saw this really cute blonde! He gave me ‘the look’ and we went into some bushes and things started getting hot and heavy.
Everything was great until my pants came down…
Apparently he didn’t like my size. He just starred at it for what felt like an eternity. He then just shook his head and walked away.
Seriously if you’re depressed no amount of men or boyfriends is going to make it better! A guy or a nut can’t make depression go away!The selected Optin Cat form doesn't exist.
What is Depression?
Depression is a mental disorder where a person has a prolonged period of sadness, unhappiness, helplessness, hopelessness or worthlessness. These feelings often get worse over a period of time, causing a person to have feelings of self-
Depression is an extremely common illness. There are approximately 350 million people living in the world today who are affected by it and it is the leading cause for a visit to see a GP or doctor.
Depression also has a stigma attached to it that people who suffer from it are weak which leads to them not seeking treatment –
It can cause an affected person to suffer terribly, leading to problems with work, breakdowns in close relationships and lead to poor physical health.
The worst cases of depression can lead to a sufferer taking his or her own life. An estimated 1 million people worldwide every year commit suicide because of depression. Half of all the people who die by suicide have major depressive disorder.
The World Health Organization have reported that by the year 2020, depression will be the second biggest cause of premature death in the world, heart disease will be the only illness or disease that causes more.
What Causes Depression?
There are many different causes of depression. It has many different triggers and there are multiple reasons it can develop.
Personal Factors are known to trigger depression. Those who have a tendency to worry a lot, have low self-
Depression has been known to run in families and some people will be at an increased hereditary or genetic risk. This does not mean that a person will automatically experience depression if a parent or close relative has had the illness though. Life circumstances and other personal factors are still likely to have an important influence.
Having a serious medical illness can trigger depression in two ways. Serious illnesses can bring about depression directly, or can contribute to depression through associated stress and worry, especially if it involves long-
Drug and alcohol use can both lead to and result from depression. Many people with depression also have drug and alcohol problems.
Symptoms of Depression
Signs and symptoms of depression include:
- Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.
A bleak outlook—nothing will ever get better and there’s nothing you can do to improve your situation.
- Loss of interest in daily activities.
No interest in former hobbies, pastimes, social activities, or sex. You’ve lost your ability to feel joy and pleasure.
- Appetite or weight changes.
Significant weight loss or weight gain—a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month.
- Sleep changes.
Either insomnia, especially waking in the early hours of the morning, or oversleeping.
- Anger or irritability.
Feeling agitated, restless, or even violent. Your tolerance level is low, your temper short, and everything and everyone gets on your nerves.
- Loss of energy.
Feeling fatigued, sluggish, and physically drained. Your whole body may feel heavy, and even small tasks are exhausting or take longer to complete.
Strong feelings of worthlessness or guilt. You harshly criticize yourself for perceived faults and mistakes.
- Reckless behavior.
You engage in escapist behavior such as substance abuse, compulsive gambling, reckless driving, or dangerous sports.
- Concentration problems.
Trouble focusing, making decisions, or remembering things.
- Unexplained aches and pains.
An increase in physical complaints such as headaches, back pain, aching muscles, and stomach pain.
How is Depression Treated?
The most common form of treatment for depression is the use of Antidepressant medication. Nobody can say for sure at this moment why antidepressants can alter a persons mood, because nobody knows for certain exactly how AD medication works.
It is only thought that by increasing or decreasing certain chemicals in the brain, such as serotonin, that this has an effect on the brains neurotransmitters.
Currently, 10% of all Americans over 12 years old take antidepressants daily, and among females in their 40’s and 50’s, that figure increases to 25%. Approximately 254 million prescriptions were written for them in America in 2010, resulting in nearly $10 billion in costs. This figure is also expected to have risen dramatically in the following years.
However, antidepressants do not cure depression, they only lessen the symptoms for a minority of people who take them. A recent report published in The Journal of the American Medical Association stated that the drugs work best for very severe cases of depression, but have little or no benefit over a placebo in less serious cases.
It is extremely difficult to put an exact figure on the percentage of people who experience decreased depressive symptoms as a result of AD medication, as reports and results vary wildly depending on the people in the study and their severity of depression, and whether a study is done by an independent body or by a pharmaceutical company.
It is thought though, that the overall “success” rate of the drugs is approximately 36% –
Antidepressants are also known to have side effects for the majority of people who take them.
Patients will usually experience one or multiple of the following; nausea, increased appetite and weight gain, loss of sexual desire and/or other sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction and decreased orgasm, fatigue and drowsiness, insomnia, dry mouth, blurred vision, constipation, dizziness, agitation, irritability, anxiety, and increased risk of suicidal thoughts and behavior –
Antidepressants come with no guarantee that they will work, on any level of success.
Further treatment options include counselling, psychotherapy or talk therapy. This has a much higher success rate than antidepressants overall, but again the figures at hand vary wildly.
The cost of seeing a councilor, therapist or psychiatrist is also very high –
It is not unusual for these professionals to charge upwards of $500 for an hours’ session though –
How does exercise help delete depression?
Regular exercise may help ease depression and anxiety by:
- Releasing feel-good endorphins, natural cannabis-like brain chemicals (endogenous cannabinoids) and other natural brain chemicals that can enhance your sense of well-being
- Taking your mind off worries so you can get away from the cycle of negative thoughts that feed depression and anxiety
- Gain confidence. Meeting exercise goals or challenges, even small ones, can boost your self-confidence. Getting in shape can also make you feel better about your appearance.
- Get more social interaction. Exercise and physical activity may give you the chance to meet or socialize with others. Just exchanging a friendly smile or greeting as you walk around your neighborhood can help your mood.
- Cope in a healthy way. Doing something positive to manage depression or anxiety is a healthy coping strategy. Trying to feel better by drinking alcohol, dwelling on how you feel, or hoping depression or anxiety will go away on its own can lead to worsening symptoms.
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Other treatment Options
It is interesting to note, that many health professionals believe there are much better ways to treat depression. Irving Kirsch, the Associate Director of the Program in Placebo Studies and a lecturer in medicine at the Harvard Medical
School is quoted as saying; “Depression is a serious problem, but drugs are not the answer. In the long run, psychotherapy is both cheaper and more effective, even for very serious levels of depression.
Physical exercise and self-
CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) has a much higher success rate than medication. Studies have shown it decreases severity of depression in most patients who maintain a CBT course, with many patients reporting they never relapsed into depression.
CBT based self-
It seems the answer is quite simple –
There is little money to be made from a healthy person, or indeed a dead person –
Due to the pharmaceutical and medical industry’s wide-
One of these few researchers who dares to go against the current trend is Eddey Sergey , a UK-
He is the creator of the “The 15 Minute Manifestation Code” , a simple, 7 step guide which can lead to self-