My Gay Weight Loss Journey Began With a Message on Grindr

My Story Begins With a Message on A Dating App


It was a warm May day in 2017. It was a day that I’ll never forget.

It was my second day in the Philippines. I had just moved into a condo in Las Pinas (a suburb of Manila). I had gotten settled in and was laying in my bed, bored.

Being bored I did what most gay men do; I went on Grindr. Not looking for anything in particular I was just playing around on the app when a nice young man messaged me.
We chatted on the app and then we talked on the phone.

We began to talk…
and talk…
and talk.
Before I knew it we had been talking for almost two hours!
He told me he was separated from his wife and was looking to explore his sexuality. He made it clear he wasn’t looking for a ‘hold hands in public’ type of relationship.
That was perfectly fine with me as I wasn’t ready to get serious with anyone anyway.

After talking for quite a while he asked to visit me.  We went over what we would do and what the boundaries were yadda yadda standard hookup procedure.

He arrived at my condo building gate and I said lets get a soda first since I was thirsty. We were walking and talking and then he just stopped.

He looked at me and said

“I didn’t know you were fat. I think I’m going to pass”

Time just stopped….

I was so humiliated!

It wasn’t just that he rejected me it was the way that he rejected me that hurt so much. He might as well as pierced a knife into my heart that’s how bad it felt.

Angry and humiliated I was so ready to attack him.

I think he sensed that because he stuck out his hand to shake mine.  I was still ready to punch some respect into him but I decided that wouldn’t be a good start to my new life in the Philippines.

I shook his hand and we parted ways.

When I walked into my condo it took everything I had to prevent myself from crying like a little girl…

Never Again!

Afterwards he sent me a text thanking me for me time to which I didn’t reply.  That night I told myself something that has stuck with me.


I’ve always been a realistic person and never afraid to face the truth. I knew there were two main things going against me on Grindr or any gay app in the Philippines.

My dark skin is beautiful to me so I wasn’t going to do anything to change that but I sure as hell could lose weight! After researching I found an article that talks about how to get a decent man. It said  losing weight would amongst other things would help my dating woes

The Truth About Cardio

Now I’ve tried to lose weight before but failed. I tried Atkins, south beach, and Jenny Craig. and all failed. This time was going to be different through!  This time I was going to do my homework BEFORE I just jumped into a weight loss plan.

What I found out was astonishing! 

I always thought that cardiovascular exercise was the best way to lose weight. Turns out that’s not true. Not even close! It turns out that cardio can be bad for you. Specifically too much cardio…

No, I’m not crazy – let me lay it out for you…

Yes, cardio does burn calories, it’s true. And yes, some cardio is good for you. Light cardio promotes a healthy heart and increases your endurance.

On the other hand, though… heavy cardio actually begins to have the opposite effects. Before I get into why, let me give you a simple but common sense example. Imagine pre-historic Man.

These men and women are running around the Paleolithic world chasing down antelope, red deer, aurox, bison and the occasional wooly mammoth.

Most of their diet comes from animal protein and what edible plants they can scrounge. Well, if cardio was so great for losing weight, these people would simply starve to death while running down their food.

All that cardio would burn through their energy reserves faster than they could replace them. Yet they didn’t starve to death… why? For one thing, a lot of heavy cardio is hard on your knees and feet. Second, it’s also hard on the heart.

Too much cardio actually begins to add scar tissue to your heart and increases your rate of heart attack. We didn’t realize that for a while until many scientific studies were done on the subject.

As for losing weight, excessive cardio actually has the reverse effect and here’s why. Our bodies are genetically designed to survive. Our body’s job is to store energy as fuel both for its immediate use and in the form of fat for those times when food is scarce.

In modern times, of course, food isn’t really scarce, so this built in safety feature is rarely needed. However, when you deprive your body of the nutrients it requires, either by starving yourself on some crazy diet or by over-taxing your body with lots of cardio, it begins to switch into survival mode.

Additionally, and unfortunately with heavy cardio, your body also becomes anabolic. That is it actually begins to burn the most effective source of energy first – and that’s not fat…it’s muscle!

Take a good look at some of these chronic long distance runners who compete. Many of them are kind of stringy looking and have to pack in the carbs just to maintain their muscle mass.

You want your body to burn fat, not muscle!

It’s not really about calories to reduce your belly fat or tummy, as many diets and so-called fitness gurus try to make you believe.

Calories are only a means of measuring food energy. Yes, if you want to lose weight, you must take in less calories than you consume, yet there’s so much more to it than that.

The biggest secret to weight loss isn’t running 10 miles every day, starving yourself or even avoiding
some of your favorite carbs, believe it or not.

In fact, if you’re going to lose weight properly, it’s actually important that you do eat some of your favorite foods!

The secret ingredient found in most foods that’s steadily adding fat to your body.

It’s been proven to be more addictive than cocaine…

Do you remember the big stink in the U.S. a few years back surrounding McDonald’s and their food, most notably French fries? It was the big trans-fat scare!That’s right, we were being poisoned by the evil clown with deadly fat and something had to be done! Yeah, because we’re not adults or anything…

So the government stepped in and the burger giant was forced to change their frying oil. On the surface of it, it’s nice of good old Uncle Sam to take care of us right?

To watch out for we, the ignorant masses, and make sure that when we’re shoving super-sized fries into our feed holes that they’re not entirely unhealthy!

Okay… but do you know that despite the choice you make to visit Mickey Dee’s, there is in fact something found in virtually every can, box or bag of food in the grocery aisle that’s incredibly addictive, almost immediately turns to fat when you eat it and is one of the leading causes of most of the ailments we suffer today? So what is this killer, which is not only ignored by the government but actually supported by it?


That’s right, processed sugar in its many forms is one of the most used ingredients in all processed and packaged foods. That includes regular white sugar, brown sugar, corn syrup, maltodextrin and a host of others.

Want proof? Try this experiment the next time you go shopping. Walk down the aisles and examine the stuff you normally buy. Including stuff you wouldn’t even think they’d put sugar in – soup, salad dressing, instant potatoes, juice, frozen foods and even baby foods…

Now, if you read the list of ingredients you’ll find some of the sugars I mentioned above. Keep in mind that this list of ingredients is organized from the highest concentration to the lowest. So if some kind of sugar is listed in the first three ingredients – and it’s often #1 or #2 – then you’re eating a whole lot of it.

Sugar is a killer and, while okay in small quantities, is extremely unhealthy, fattening and addictive. That’s right – thousands of independent clinical studies have shown that sugar is more addictive than cocaine and even heroine…

…and it’s in virtually everything we eat!

So is it any wonder why you might find it hard to drop the poundage?

Here’s something else to ponder before we say goodbye.

There’s actually a list of vegetables that are routinely served in restaurants and found in the produce section of the grocery store that are generally thought to be healthy… but are actually very bad for you and inhibit your ability to drop weight!

Health, fitness and weight loss are complex issues and we’ve been fed a lot of myths over the years. That’s why I’ve made it my goal in life to share the truth about foods, exercise and weight loss that we westerners have been denied for so long!

I Came Up With A Plan

I decided the best way to lose weight and more importantly keep it off was to have a plan where I still could eat my favorite foods and also included exercise. Yup, this was more than just a zero belly fat diet book!

Yes exercise is important to help build up your muscle mass. Not only will more muscle mass get you a higher response rate on grindr but it will help you to burn fat without having to starve yourself.

I began experimenting with different kinds of foods and exercises. I discovered for me while still eating a hamburger once a week if I ate a lot more vegetables and did various exercises at home such as jumping jacks, push-ups, and good ol’ fashioned crunches that my fat would melt away.

It Worked!

What kept me going was hearing those words in my head

“I didn’t know you were fat. I think I’m going to pass!”

Those 12 words kept me going. I wanted to show that guy what he had missed out on!

I finished my plan ‘gay weight loss plan’. The results speak for themselves…

On Vacation in Bacolod (results not guaranteed) 

My Grindr Profile Also Reflects the Change!

I’d be lying if I said I never got rejected on grindr again but let me tell you losing weight made my dating life better than its ever been before!

Losing weight is good for your health and love life! I have no regret in the world about reversing my obesity I had always been depressed about my weight but no more.

My entire life has been transformed! The changes transcend far beyond grindr. In life I find people are nicer to me and want to be around me more often.

The jeepney drivers don’t charge me double anymore either! LOL!

Here are two ways to take out the trash in your body:

1.Don’t put sugar in.
2. Burn it off.

That’s it…

That’s all we need to do. The best part? It’s all natural and completely free. No drugs. No sugar. No cost.

Step 1 — Stopping putting sugar in

The first step is to eliminate all sugar and refined starches from your diet. Sugar actually has little nutritional value and can therefore be eliminated. Starches are nothing more long chains of sugars.

Highly refined starches such as flour or white rice are quickly broken down by digestion into glucose. This is quickly absorbed into the blood and raises blood sugar. You probably already know that eating white bread increases blood sugars very quickly.

Doesn’t it seem apparent that we should avoid foods that raise blood sugars because they will eventually be absorbed into the body?

The problem, as eluded to earlier, As discussed earlier though must of us don’t know what foods besides the obvious to eliminate.

Step 2 — Burn it off

Fasting is a simple and quick method to force your body to burn its excess sugar and fat for energy. Glucose in the blood is the most easily accessible source of energy for the body. Fasting is merely the antithesis of eating–if you are not putting sugar into your body you are burning it off.

Since obesity is merely excessive fat in the body, burning it off will reverse the disease. While it may sound severe, fasting has been practiced for at least 2000 years. It is the literally the oldest diet known to man kind.

Stone tablets of Roman’s practicing fasting have been found in Italy, for example…

Here’s the bottom line:

If you don’t eat, will your fat stores go down? Of course.

If you don’t eat, will you lose weight? Of course.

Problem solved! Someone please award me a noble prize! Oh wait there’s one little problem. You’ll die if you don’t eat…

Okay so we know we can reverse obesity quickly if you stop eating. But since that would kill you there’s got to be a better way.

There is. If we eat the right foods at the right times we can give our bodies a chance to slowly heal from all the garbage we’ve been stomping into it for all our lives.

The truth is obesity is completely reversible! No drugs! No magic potions! No gimmicks!  It is completely reversible with  eating and drinking the right things at the right time.

A new hope  has risen…

Of course neither of these things are as easy as I’ve described but there are ways to get darn close to achieving these goals. The full guide will show you exactly what to do and when to do it to reverse your weight problem.

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